Lipstick is not the answer

My sweet sister sent me this, and said I could post it.

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Meggie is best when she’s just being Meggie. Lipstick and skirts is all just superficial stuff and would make her feel uncomfortable, and awkward, like she’s trying to be someone else. Obviously, you want to look good and you should put effort into that, and sometimes it’s fun to push the boundaries of how you feel comfortable dressing. But you’re already pretty, so that part is a slam dunk. If you try too hard and wear makeup & clothes that you’re not comfortable in those big blue grey eyes will just open wider and you’ll look like a deer in the headlights instead of an easy-going girl who’s out because she wants to have a fun time.

Is it possible to stop looking? Somehow I feel like looking = doomed because then every interaction is too heavy and overloaded and weird and both parties pick up on that and it tires everybody out.

I’d say just keep making yourself sort of open and available. Be friendly and playful and smart and kind and listen to what other people are saying without judging them. don’t make fun of them until you know they get your sense of humor. Also, don’t assume you’re smarter than somebody you meet right off the bat. Because you want them to surprise you.

Learn from your time at SLO… instead of not liking it there, try to appreciate the best parts of the place. I know it wasn’t up to your standards for diversity or “interesting” foods, but you could have learned to surf or body board or hiked or camped or rode horses or gone wine tasting or something. Just say to yourself, “well, I’m here now, might as well make the best of it and find a way to have fun”

If you like engineers then go where the engineers are. Take a class at Davis for passing the PE exam. I’d also take a cooking class, because you love to cook and you definitely want to hook up with a dude who’s taking a cooking class. And when you go to a party make sure you’re not setting yourself apart like you’re judging it or comparing it to other parties otherwise you’ll seem like you’re disdainful or superior.

Maybe go more places alone? Because when you’re already in the middle of a group of girls that might feel sort of unapproachable to some guys.

I don’t know. Just relax and keep having fun and doing things you like to do, because that’s attractive. Teetering around in high heels isn’t. I’d say use some hair product, though.