A happy ending.
My ex's cousin was super high-maintenance and label conscious. Her family was rich and encouraged that. She got herself a very nice boyfriend who couldn't keep up with her; her family always looked down on him. In an effort to get her to break up with him, they would always give her an identical gift right after he had, only more expensive and nicer. He gave her diamond earrings? They gave her bigger diamond earrings. He saved up for a watch for her? They got her the next model up. She always wore the nicer one.
For some reason, he really loved her and finally proposed. She looked him in the eye and asked "Can you afford me?" He said "No" and so did she.
For some reason, he really loved her and finally proposed. She looked him in the eye and asked "Can you afford me?" He said "No" and so did she.
posted by Megan at 9:08 PM
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That cracked me up. Thanks.
How do I delete other people's comments? Not that I'm hating on anyone in particular.
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You would think the dude would have figured out not to give her duplicable presents. Options include:
1. make her an ashtray
2. get her an item from a remote part of the world that there is really only one of
3. do something experiential (family doing something experiential afterward doesn't undo the prior experiential gift)
4. provide sexual favors (if family tries competing here, you probably should move on)
After a few instances of her always wearing the family's nicer version of the gifts, you'd think he would have gotten the point. I wonder who she ended up marrying - some extremely wealthy dude, I presume.
Peter
Iron Rails & Iron Weights
Megan, it's my understanding that your ex was AsianAm (and by extension, his family, too.)
What is it about AsianAm culture that allows this sort of thing to take place? I grew up with my Chinese father's meddling in my relationships, too (nothing near this bad, of course.) I don't get it. -K.
I'm a little more curious who Tantalus ended up with. Probably someone just as material but not "kind" enough to tell him he was playing above his head. He's found his own version of hell, I'd bet.
What is it about AsianAm culture that allows this sort of thing to take place?
It's not really Asian. I think most insular cultures are like that. A friend of mine, who is 30 and Jewish, has never once in her life introduced a boyfriend to her father. Because if she so much as dated a non-Jewish boy he would disown her. A year ago she finally brought one home for Thanksgiving and as they were leaving he said, "It was nice to see you but I hope you come home alone next year."
Personally I find that kind of racist bullshit inexcusable.
Justus,
Yes, an "insular" culture would be one that sits off by itself without wanting to make friends with the white girls out there. However, I don't think it's just that. In many non-American cultures, the family has traditionally held a much larger role in selecting a mate for the progeny.
In many American families, even if the family itself disagrees, the attitude seems to be: "well it's their life; they can screw it up if they want." In other words, there is a clear separation between the adult child's life and the lives of the rest of the family. In Asian (and perhaps other) families, decision-making is often more collective. And this could cause conflict even if the families were no more insular than an American counterpart.
Yup, a totally happy ending! I hope that he learned something in the process too. He sounds very devoted, and with that personality it's very important to chose who to be devoted to. Best not to choose poorly.
And, about the family thing... Yeah, what a bunch of assholes! I think that disowning a child is the best way to prove that you're still too damn immature yourself. As for that sort of meddling, I guess that it's the norm in many cultures, but I have no reference. My parents give me their opinions, I listen and consider and do what I think is best. In all situations. I treat them like adults and they treat me like adults. I can hardly imagine being treated that way and I don't think I'd stand for it.
Besides, letting other people tell you what to do deprives them of being able to feel superior when your choices go awry. ;-)
Cheers,
Tim.
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